I wont always update like this, I will always update at least once a day but never like this. I guess because I just started this blog I felt I had a lot to get out. I don't know whats better anyway, a few shorter entries or one long entry.
Anyway, I feel like this is really important to my storey and I need to include it:
In the event that when I do tell Tano I am keeping our child, he does freak out and not have a good reaction (a garuntee by my lieing), I am prepared to sit down with him and my lawyer and sign a legal contract with him stating that:
-- At no point and time during our childs life will he be financially tied to or responsible for this cihld, myself or any bills or debts (public or private) related to the child.
-- I will in fact, leave the fathers spot on the birth certificate blank if he so chooses. I will be ready at ANY moment to put his name on that line.
-- Though he will never be responsible for this child or my (the mothers) medical care, at any point and time that he chooses to be a part of our child's life he will be welcomed with open arms and no judgment.
That last one I can guarantee. There is no other man in the world to father my child, no better father alive or to be created. God bless him. The only reason I am willing and ready to make this contract is because of his babies mothers in the past. One of whom got pregnant by him on purpose just so that she could tie him down financially. This is at the point and time where my husband ran his own business. This woman and another took advantage of him for money. The mother of one of his daughters actually allowed their daughter to live with a medical condition that was fixable. Because the mother enjoyed getting welfare checks too much, she never got the little girl treatment. She is now in a wheel chair, cannot walk and can't be moved without help. It breaks me, that this was entirely fixable. Instead, her mother spent the disability checks on drugs. That poor child.Anyway, the point is I would never do that to her or to him or to a child.
I am so tired, trying to ease my stress over all of these situations....
Good night moo
I found this blog thru the BBC website, and just wanted to offer the fact that, while your 'contract' may be welcomed by your husband, no lawyer would actually draw that up. Unless your husband abandons his rights as a father legally, he is still financially responsible for the child, even if you aren't the one asking for money.
ReplyDeleteThat is very true. I just want to find a way to reassure him that I am not doing what both of his childrens mothers did and his brothers first daughters mothers did. Of course in all reality I don't have a clue as to what I'm talking about haha. I guess this is just an ideal idea.
ReplyDeleteAs far as him being legally financially responsible, thats why I said what I did about leaving the fathers name on the birth certificate blank, therefor he could never be legally attatched to the child unless he wanted to. And at which point that he wanted to, I would in a heartbeat put his name on it.
Thank you so much for reading and for your comment.